📖 What the Bible Says About Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is a painful reality that affects countless families, yet it is rarely spoken about in the church. Survivors often wonder what the Bible says about abuse and whether God sees their suffering. While Scripture may not use the modern term “domestic violence,” God’s Word is clear: abuse has no place in relationships, and violence is never His design.

The Bible consistently calls us to love, protect, and honor one another. Let’s look at some of the key passages that show God’s heart toward victims of abuse and His rejection of violence.

God Designed Relationships for Love and Respect

Marriage and family relationships are intended to reflect Christ’s love. Abuse is the opposite of that calling.

• Ephesians 5:25 – “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

• Colossians 3:19 – “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”

Christ’s example is one of sacrifice and protection—not harm. Any act of cruelty or abuse distorts God’s design.

God Condemns Violence

The Bible is very clear about God’s view of violence. He despises it.

• Psalm 11:5 – “The Lord examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, he hates with a passion.”

• Malachi 2:16 – “The man who hates and divorces his wife…does violence to the one he should protect, says the Lord Almighty.”

Abuse in marriage or family is not only sin—it is violence against someone God calls us to love and protect.

God Cares for the Oppressed and Vulnerable

For those who are hurting, God promises to be near. He does not ignore the cries of the abused.

• Psalm 9:9 – “The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.”

• Isaiah 1:17 – “Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed.”

God’s heart is for justice and protection. As His people, we are called to be advocates and defenders of those experiencing harm.

Abuse Has No Place in Christian Living

The fruits of a Spirit-filled life leave no room for abuse.

• Galatians 5:22–23 – “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

• 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 – Love is patient, kind, not easily angered, and always protects.

True love, according to Scripture, protects rather than destroys.

Final Encouragement

Domestic violence is never God’s will. The Bible shows us that God hates violence, calls us to love and respect one another, and offers refuge and hope to those who are suffering. If you are experiencing abuse, know that God sees you, loves you, and wants safety and healing for your life.

The church and community are called to stand alongside survivors, seeking justice and providing support. Together, we can break the silence, offer hope, and reflect the love of Christ—the love that always protects.